You Are Energy.
We all know them. Those fellow human beings who seem to delight in being crappy. You may have to deal with them at your place of residence, at your job, at a store or restaurant, at a government office (DMV anybody?), and definitely while you are driving in your car. There is something about being behind the steering wheel of a car that seems to bring out maximum crappiness in some people.
What you have in common with every human being in the world is that you are made up of energy, vibrating energy. Your thoughts, your words, your actions, your feelings, your beliefs all combine to create your unique energy frequency. This frequency could be low, medium or high depending on your overall perspective about life as well as what’s happening in your life on any given day. The higher the frequency of your energy vibration, the better you feel, the more you accomplish, the greater the chance that people enjoy being in your presence. You don’t have to be some enlightened guru to be able to feel somebody’s “vibes”.
The other side of the coin is the person whose energy vibrates at a low frequency. You know that person. He or she is the one who perpetually seems to have a dark cloud hanging over their head. They are the ones who are holding a grudge against the world and take advantage of every opportunity to spread their unhappiness to everyone with whom they come in contact. They are the one who when you see them coming, you quick duck into the bathroom, into the storage room, into anywhere where they are not. This crappy person is the subject of this article. More specifically, the purpose of this article is to disclose a manner of dealing with them that prevents them from spreading their unhappiness to you.
The Gatekeeper
In dealing with this particular problem, the key is for you to recognize that you are a gatekeeper. The gatekeeper of the thoughts that enter you mind. The gatekeeper of the feelings that enter your heart. You, and only you, are the security guard stationed at the “velvet rope”. You decide who to let in and who to throw out. By the word “who” I mean what thoughts you allow to remain in your mind and what feelings you allow to germinate in your heart.
I am sure you have heard the phrase – “He (or she) makes me so mad”. Likewise, I am equally sure that you have heard the phrase – “She (or he) makes me happy”. Wrong on both accounts. You may intensely dislike/hate the words, attitude or actions of the person who “makes you mad”. You may intensely like/love the words, attitudes or actions of the person who “makes you happy”. However, you and only you, are the one to choose how you respond to each person. You are the one who makes yourself angry or happy by your responding thoughts and feelings. Nobody “makes” you anything. All of your “makes me’s” start and end with Y O U. By your response, you are the one who accepts happiness or anger as the proper response. You and only you.
Everybody, at some point in their life, is going to interact with a crappy person. Unless you live in a cave in the mountains as a hermit, you are inevitably going to meet Mr. Crappy or Mrs. Crappy. Maybe a whole bunch of them at different points during your lifetime. Take heart. This article will disclose a specific strategy that you can employ to successfully deal with these situations. It has worked for me and I know it can work for you if you can keep your mind and your heart open and just give it half a chance.
Crappy People Examples
I will give you some examples of what I would classify as a crappy person. First, there is “the boss/supervisor from hell”. Always haranguing you for something or other. No matter what you do, they are not satisfied. Second, we have the unhappy spouse or significant other. As they slide deeper into unhappiness and insecurity, they want nothing more than to drag you down into the pit with them. Third, we have the crappy neighbor who thinks it’s a hoot that their dog craps on your lawn. Or perhaps they are outraged that the dandelions in your yard are creeping over into his pristine lawn. Or maybe they blast their stereo so loud it goes right through the walls of your residence. Fourth, there are the bratty kids who feel entitled to do whatever they want and their parents think they can do no wrong. Fifth, we have the DMV clerk who treats you like you were some type of moron. Sixth, we have Mr. Crappy who thinks he owns the road and can drive any which way he likes. Seventh………oh well, you get the idea. I could go on and on, but I won’t. Unfortunately, crappy behavior abounds.
Resist Not Evil
When I was a kid, I was directed by my parents to attend what was called Sunday school by the church denomination to which we belonged. Sunday school lasted an hour from 10:00 to 11:00 am. When I turned 13, Sunday school ended when you were officially confirmed into full church communion. At the older end of that pre-adolescent timeframe, I started asking questions about certain scriptural verses that required clarification. One of those verses was from the words of Jesus in the Sermon on the Mount. In the book of Matthew, chapter 5, verse 39, Jesus stated “Resist not evil”.
Don’t resist evil. Most people would have trouble with that one. Does that mean that you are supposed to just stand by passively and let the evil actions of human beings go by unchallenged? It just didn’t sound right to me. Don’t you have the right and responsibility to defend yourself or your loved ones against harm? The response of the Sunday school teacher was that, as Christians, we are always to demonstrate the peace and presence of Christ. We must trust God and not fall into the devil’s trap of fighting evil with evil. I heard his response but still “left the table hungry”, so to speak.
The Golden Key
If you look at the manifestation of evil being a construct of mankind’s error of thought and belief, you can see what Jesus was getting at. When you gear up your inner mental and emotional energy to resist evil, you actually feed the monster and increase its existence and its power over you. You are focusing on the essence of evil instead of the Kingdom of God. In his famous essay, The Golden Key, Emmet Fox touched upon this situation. He stated that when encountering any type of adverse circumstances, just dwell on God. Only God. Let the truth of the Most High fill up every space of your mind, your heart, your soul. Like a tsunami. In your thoughts, make the choice to acknowledge the one true God as the only true Presence.
You always have the right to protect yourself or your loved ones from harm. Always. What “Resist Not Evil” means is this – drawn to its ultimate conclusion, if every human being on the face of the planet refused to accept the illusion of evil, and put God first in everything, evil would disappear. The concept of evil would still exist in order to give meaning to the concept of good. However, the physical manifestation of evil would disappear. Paradise. Jesus gives you the key to dealing with evil. Put the key into the lock. Open the door of understanding.
Well Yeah, Of Course It’s Hard
Regarding “resist not evil” you may say, “OMG do you realize how incredibly hard that is to do in the real world?” When, for example, somebody is beating the shit out of you while they rob you, the last thing on your mind would be “resist not evil”. Yes, it is hard. Very hard. I guess if it were easy to do, the world would not be in the shape that it is in today. When you deeply think about it however, it really does make sense. Think of God. Dwell only in the Kingdom of God within you. Believe in your heart that the Presence of God is around you always. Make this a paramount belief in your daily living. Put God First. You will grow in peace and in power despite any and all circumstances. Peace and Power. That is better than even Batman and Robin! Think of evil, dwell in the paradigm of resisting evil, focusing on the evil and you tragically give the energy of manifested evil ever more power. You only succeed in feeding the monster.
Commit yourself to dwelling only on the Presence of God. Be persistent. Anything new and unfamiliar is always difficult at first. It is similar to learning a new skill or strengthening your body or learning a new language. Make the decision that you are going to do it and that’s that. Simply refuse to give up, no matter what. You will fail at first but It becomes easier as time goes on if you stick with it. Refuse to quit. If you persist you will find yourself experiencing the peace and power of the Kingdom of God within. I guarantee you, you will absolutely love that feeling. Crappiness emanating from different people will substantially fall away. Sometimes immediately. Sometimes after a period of time. But fall away it will.
Oh Yeah, It Works Alright
Your first thought, with regard to this method of dealing with crappy behavior from people, could very well be along the lines of the following – “Yeah right. Just dwell on the presence of God and I’m gonna have sunshine and butterflies and this jerkoff or bitch that is making my life miserable will go away. Get real!”
I would not blame you for feeling that way. I fully understand. By no means should you take anything that I say as truth without testing it fully. Right now, I challenge you to simply put this to the test. Try it in your life. But not in any half-hearted, pussy way but with a true, determined and focused effort with all of your mind, heart and energy. Are you scared to try? Has laziness of mind become your master? Afraid of failure? I fully understand, BUT if you do not try, you have already sentenced yourself to failure. Oh yeah, from my own personal experience, it works alright. That is not the issue. The true question is this: can you summon up your inner courage to commit to it?
A Minor Example
I will give you a brief, minor example from my life. In one of the careers that I have worked, I had a bitchy supervisor who was the queen of acting in a crappy manner. She regularly imposed her authority in daily situations to cover up her insecurities. One day I stepped away from my work duties while talking to a co-employee for a few minutes. This supervisor swooped in and reprimanded me for not performing job duties on company time. She was acting stupidly. I calmly told her so and that her comment was totally unnecessary and counterproductive. She left in a huff.
Rather than use my inner energy thinking along the lines of “I hate that bitch”, I took a few deep breaths and prayed silently – “Thank you God for your eternal Presence. Bless this woman with your peace”. It was hard to do, but I made myself do it. However, at the same time, I had a responsibility to myself to protect myself from her arbitrary actions. During my lunch break, I hand wrote a detailed, truthful summary of the event.
When I proceeded with my work day at a different building, her supervisor came up to me where I was working. Intuitively, I knew the other supervisor had complained to her about me and that she was going to reprimand me. Before she could say anything, I handed her my hand written statement. She took it and read it. Upon finishing reading it, she simply turned and walked away without saying so much as a word. Then I completely took my mind elsewhere, repeating slowly in my mind the words of Jesus “the kingdom of God is within me”.
The Conclusion
The following days and months the bitchy supervisor studiously avoided contact with me. Within three months, through a series of events, she was gone from the company. Just a minor example of how to deal with crappy people through the principle of “resist not evil”. I could give many other examples as well. Manifest the best reality that you can experience during your precious and short lifetime here on planet earth. It always goes back to allowing your knowledge of the Presence of Divine Wisdom to completely fill every part of your being. Like a tsunami. What the human mind believes, humankind receives.
Conceive. Believe. Receive.